The key to effortlessness
Sunday, May 6th, 2012There’re two ways to achieve effortlessness in life.
The first is to do only the bare essentials. Get rid of all the unnecessary stuff and your life will get a lot less effortful.
The second is to get someone else to do it for you.
When I suggested this second option in one of the earlier incarnations of the AOV, (I think I said something like, “Do not do for yourself what others can do for you.”), my friend who was proofreading it was aghast. He left a few exclamation marks next to the line by way of comment.
But no, that’s not what I meant.
I didn’t imply that the way to effortlessness is to exploit others.
What I meant is to harness the energy of others to do your work for you, in very symbiotic ways. In relationships that are mutually beneficial.
A classic example of this kind of relationships is the honey bee. Flowers need honey bees to pollinate for them, and honey bees need flowers to give them honey. Win-win all around.
If you’re a guitar teacher, you don’t really have to advertise yourself.
Let your students do it for you. Just make sure you teach them to the best of your ability, and their good playing will speak and advertise for you. Another win-win relationship.
Interestingly enough, I’m sure you’ve probably seen the deluge of ads put out by banks and oil companies lately. Mostly feel-good ads propounding their community-mindedness and their concern for you.
I’m sure those ads would make a huge impact on those who have been recently foreclosed or those who live on the Gulf Coast.
Back to the point I was making.
You see, we often forget that we’re not the only ones on the planet, there’re other people too, and they can help us do our stuff, and help themselves too in the process.
Another example.
I used to get really freaked out when overtaking cars on those narrow two-lane country highways in Malaysia and see cars from the other side coming straight at me.
But then I realized that there’re people in those other cars too. They would, in all likelihood, want to avoid a collision with me and would slow down or even go off the road to avoid me too. Which is precisely what happen all the time.
Yes, I should still stay vigilant but I can take comfort in the thought that there’re other people watching out for me too.
In the martial arts, getting your opponent to defeat themselves is part of good strategy. Why waste your energy when you can redirect your opponent’s energy back to him? Yes, it’s not exactly a symbiotic relationship, but for some reason, that’s not a huge concern when you’re trying to avoid getting hurt.
In the AOV, enlisting the energy of other elements is the key to effortlessness.
Don’t try to do everything yourself. Don’t depend only on the fingers to pluck the string for you.
There’re other things that can do the job for you. Momentum, for instance, or the energy in the strings themselves.
And of course, don’t forget the first option – make your movements ultra economical so you don’t have to do so much work.